Start by thinking about if the problem is big enough to place all of your energy into. Do you want to confront your spouse on cheating accusations? Definitely. Do you wish to argue over why she or he watched the latest bout of Game of Thrones without you? You’ll probably want to, but is the silent treatment and screaming well worth it when you’re able to watch another one together? Could it be well worth yelling at the new intern because she put two packs of sugars in your coffee rather than three?
It’s understandable to get annoyed, particularly if you’re having a bad day or things aren’t heading as planned, but it’s not alright to take it from an innocent bystander, your friend, or the man taking your order at Wendy’s. Karma is as effective as what you released so if you’re departing negative energy, that is all you’ll receive.
“If it comes, let it come. If it goes, it’s ok, let it go. Let things come and go. Stay calm, don’t let anything disturb your peace, and carry on.”
“You can’t selectively numb your anger, any more than you can turn off all lights in a room, and still expect to see the light.”
“Getting angry in a stressful situation is like trying to clean something with dirt.”
“Free your hearts of anxiety, pain and anger, to have peace within your heart and soul.”
“Anger is a boomerang.”
“Whoever is able to anger you is able to control you.”
“Reacting in anger or annoyance will not advance one’s ability to persuade.”